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Can Unmarried Couples Plan for Aging Together?

“Eventually, most older couples will face health crises and the need for caregiving. If they haven’t vowed their mutual marital commitment ‘til death us do part,’ their roles and responsibilities can be murky.”

Choosing to marry or not marry in one’s later years has implications beyond whether the couple should send out holiday cards together. For older unmarried couples, navigating health care needs becomes a serious issue, as explained in a recent article from The New York Times, “For Older Unmarried Couples, Caregiving Obligations Can Be Murky.”

The article begins with the example of a couple who have been together for nearly two decades, maintaining separate residences but mainly living in the woman’s home. She began developing memory loss and fell several times. One family member finds the presence of her partner comforting. However, her partner acknowledges concerns about problems in their future. He spoke with her family and suggested they move into a continuing care retirement community where care is adjusted as needs change.

The woman’s daughter objected. She holds power of attorney and makes many decisions for her mother, which doesn’t bode well for their future together. For now, the couple remains in their homes and relies on home care aides. However, this may not last long.

There’s no road map for the aging process for unmarried couples or couples who maintain separate residences. However, as the number of unmarried partners among older Americans grows, this may change. Census data from 2023 shows nearly 400,000 Americans over age 75 are living together without the legal protection of marriage.

Remaining single has its advantages. Passing along an estate to children is far easier if the couple doesn’t combine their finances through marriage. They don’t risk losing pensions or Social Security benefits if they marry, nor do they need to take on the other person’s debts. For seniors in America, medical debt and the cost of long-term health care are financial risks.

Unmarried partners need to be proactive about estate planning to protect themselves and prepare for the future. Each should have an estate planning attorney prepare advance directives, health care proxies, durable powers of attorney and wills. Having these documents prepared will help the individuals clarify their wishes in terms of medical care in the event of serious illness or incapacity.

The potential conflict between unmarried partners and biological children should be treated with great seriousness. A beloved partner will not have any say in their loved one’s medical care, unless they are named as the health care proxy. An adult child who resents an unmarried partner could keep the couple apart if one were hospitalized or moved to a nursing facility.

Older unmarried adults need to embrace estate planning and not put off taking care of this task. A tendency to procrastinate could leave their long-term loved partner out of any aspect of their lives if this is not addressed.

Caregiving responsibilities often drive decisions in a crisis if no advance planning has been done. If the couple is living in the home owned by one member of the couple and the owner has to go into a nursing care facility, the healthy partner could be evicted.

Having an experienced estate planning attorney create an estate plan, including the power of attorney, healthcare proxies and other important documents, protects couples so they can help each other and make decisions before a crisis strikes.

Reference: The New York Times (Nov. 10, 2024) “For Older Unmarried Couples, Caregiving Obligations Can Be Murky”

How to Prepare for Cognitive Changes in Your Life

Plan for the possibility of cognitive decline and the future of your household's financial affairs.

Planning for the cognitive decline that often accompanies aging can prevent expensive mistakes, says a recent article from U.S. News & World Report, “How to Minimize 4 Financial Management Disasters That Come With Aging.” Planning for cognitive decline can make our later years less stressful.

Age and Vulnerability to Financial Elder Abuse. Simple tasks like paying bills can become problematic as our cognitive abilities diminish. This also leaves people more susceptible to fraud and scammers—today’s thieves’ prey on the elderly through telephone, online, mail and in-person schemes. Add a layer of protection by having a trusted person or family member oversee accounts. A professional fiduciary or a bill-pay service could be used if no family member is available or trustworthy enough.

Freezing a senior’s credit with major credit bureaus can make it harder for thieves to steal their identity, take out loans, or open credit cards under their names.

Financial documents should be organized, and their location should be shared with loved ones. Your estate planning attorney, financial advisor and CPA should have the contact info of a trusted person who can step in to manage your affairs, if necessary. Your estate planning attorney can create a Financial Power of Attorney, so they can act on your behalf.

You can appoint a representative payee with the Social Security Administration, so another person can help you with Social Security matters.

The Death or Disability of the Family’s Financial Person. One person in the household very often runs the business side of life, paying bills, balancing checkbooks and keeping an eye on investments. If that person dies or becomes disabled, the spouse needs to be able to take over finances. To do this, they’ll need to know more than the usernames and passwords on accounts—although they’ll need to know this information as well. Regular check-ins on financial matters with a spouse and a trusted adult is a good practice.

Planning for Long-Term Care Expenses. Failing to prepare for the cost of long-term care or to protect a couple’s assets with Medicaid planning can be financially catastrophic. Medicaid can help with the cost of nursing home care. However, if the family has assets, they must be used up before the person is eligible for care. Medicaid also has a five-year lookback period, meaning any transfers or sales of assets taking place five years from the date of application will delay eligibility. An estate planning attorney can help with the use of irrevocable trusts, often referred to as Medicaid Asset Protection Trusts. There are also trusts designed to protect assets for the healthy spouse. A consultation with an estate planning attorney long before long-term care is needed is critical to avoiding this mistake.

Outliving Your Money. Experts believe nearly two-thirds of Americans nearing retirement age are unprepared for two, three, or even four decades of retirement. The past year’s skyrocketing costs of living have prevented many from adding to their savings during the end of their working lives, and many don’t even have emergency savings. Having a financial plan and an estate plan is important at every age and stage of life.

Cognitive changes don’t happen to everyone as they age. However, it is still wise to have your estate planning done long before any changes occur. Having a will and any necessary trusts created and executed while you are at full capacity allows you to be the one making these decisions.

Reference: U.S. News & World Report (June 26, 2024) “How to Minimize 4 Financial Management Disasters That Come With Aging”

How Can a Trust Be Used for Long-Term Care?

“They may wish they had applied for long-term-care insurance when they were healthy enough to pass the medical underwriting standards.”

More than a few seniors who are retired or nearing retirement lose sleep worrying over being able to afford the expense of long-term care, including nursing home care, which can cost thousands monthly. The fallback option for many Americans is Medicaid; according to a recent article, “Long-Term-Care planning using trusts,” from the Journal of Accountancy., Medicaid is a joint federal-state program requiring spending down assets.

To be eligible for long-term care through Medicaid, a person’s “countable” assets must fall below an extremely low ceiling—in some states, no more than $2,000, with some provisions in some states protecting the “well” spouse. States vary in terms of which assets are counted, with many exempting a primary residence, for example.

For many people, planning for Medicaid for long-term care may consider the use of an irrevocable trust. The basic idea is this: by transferring assets to an irrevocable trust at least five years before applying for Medicaid for long-term care, the Medicaid agency will not count those assets in determining whether Medicaid’s asset ceiling is satisfied.

If the planning is done wrong, there is a risk of not qualifying, thereby defeating the objective of creating the irrevocable trust. In addition, any tax planning may be undone, causing liquidity and other problems.

Some people plan to qualify for Medicaid even though they have asset levels as high as $2 million or more. Much of this may be the family’s primary residence, especially in locations like New York City, with its elevated real estate market. Costs at nursing homes are equally high, with nursing homes costing private-pay patients upwards of $20,000 a month, or $250,000 per year.

Timing is a key part of planning for Medicaid. Many estate planning attorneys recommend clients consider planning in their mid-to-late 60s or early 70s to move assets into a Medicaid Asset Preservation Trust, also called a Medicaid Asset Protection Trust.

This is because of Medicaid’s five-year lookback period. Most states have a five-year look-back period for both nursing home and home health care. If any transfer of countable assets has been made within the preceding five years of applying for long-term-care Medicaid, there will be a penalty period when the person or their family must pay for the care. The penalty is typically measured by the length of time the transferred assets could have paid for care, based on the average costs of the state or the region.

While there is no way to know when a person will need long-term care, statistically speaking, a person in their mid-to-late 60s or early 70s can expect to be healthy enough to satisfy the five-year lookback.

Why not simply make gifts to children during this time to become eligible for Medicaid? For one reason, there’s no way to prevent a child from spending money given to them for safekeeping. A trust will protect assets from a child’s creditors, and if the child should undergo a divorce, the assets won’t end up in the ex-spouse’s bank accounts.

Using a trust for Medicaid planning could be combined with gifts made to children or assets placed in trust for children, depending on the individual’s financial and familial circumstances.

The creation of a Medicaid Asset Preservation Trust is critical. The estate planning attorney must seek to accomplish two things: one, to say to Medicaid that the settlor, or creator of the trust, no longer owns the assets. At the same time, the IRS must see that the settlor still owns these assets and, therefore, receives a basis step-up at death.

An experienced estate planning attorney will be needed to advise you and create a Medicaid Asset Preservation Trust to meet the Medicaid and IRS requirements.

Reference: Journal of Accountancy (Oc. 9, 2023) “Long-Term-Care planning using trusts”

Don’t Fall for These Medicaid and Estate Myths

“Since estate issues, one way or another, affect everyone over time (since death does) and since Medicaid planning has for many years been a topic of popular conversation—and popular misconceptions in the U.S., it is not unusual that both subjects have generated misunderstandings and, in some cases, folklore that has persisted.”

No matter how many articles are published and posted, many myths continue to come up in conversations between estate planning attorneys and their clients, says a recent article from The Mercury, “PLANNING AHEAD: Outlining some common estate and Medicaid myths.” These three appear to be the most pervasive.

The “reading of the will.” Maybe we’ve all seen too many movies centered on family feuds over inheritances. However, this simply doesn’t happen today. In the movie version, beneficiaries gather in a wealthy person’s library, the decedent’s beloved cat is sitting in their favorite chair, a roaring fire blazes in the seven-foot-tall fireplace and a shock reverberates around the room as the cat is named the sole heir to a fortune.

None of this is true, although a pet trust could be used to pay for the care of the cat. There are requirements in some states to notify interested parties of the death, and in some instances, notices need to be published in local newspapers. It is not necessary to provide a copy of the will to interested parties. However, a copy of the will can be obtained once it has been filed with the court as part of probate.

The government or nursing home takes the family residence once a resident enters a Medicaid facility. This is a scary myth. However, the reality is more complex. The government and nursing homes don’t keep an inventory of houses. If a nursing home resident who is unmarried qualifies for Medicaid and still owns a home in their own name and the home is still in their name upon death, in many states, the state generally has a claim as a creditor of the estate through the process of recovery to compensate the state for funds used for the person’s care.

If the house was sold during the lifetime of the Medicaid recipient, the house, which has been an exempt asset under the Medicaid rules, has lost its exempt status by being converted to cash, which is not exempt. This becomes a complicated transaction, but the taking idea is an oversimplification.

There are also exceptions, even during lifetime. They may include transferring the Medicaid recipient’s house to a disabled child or transferring the house to a “caretaker child” if the requirements are met. An experienced elder law estate planning attorney is needed to work through these complex issues.

Finally, there’s a myth or misunderstanding about the five-year lookback period. Most people know the rule applying to transfers before requesting Medicaid benefits. However, it’s not as simple as it sounds. It makes more sense to say assets may not be transferred without following the many rules—and there are many.

For peace of mind, it’s best to meet with an experienced elder law attorney to map out your plan for long-term care and create or update an estate plan. Their knowledge of your state’s laws regarding estate planning and Medicaid will be invaluable.

Reference: The Mercury (Aug. 16, 2023) “PLANNING AHEAD: Outlining some common estate and Medicaid myths”

Planning for Long-Term Care and Taxes

“Many families discover that trying to mitigate the cost of long-term care can conflict with another common retirement concern—reducing taxes for retirees and their heirs.”

Retirement brings about several risks including longevity, market risk and inflation, paired with two of the most common concerns of later life: the costs of long-term care and how to reduce or avoid taxes during retirement and upon transferring assets to heirs. These concerns are addressed in a recent article from Kiplinger, “Long-Term Care Planning vs. Taxes: Finding a Healthy Balance.”

Long-term Care Insurance (LTC) is recommended for individuals and families under age 65 with investable assets ranging from $1.5 million to $3 million. The limits on net worth and age are based on striking a balance between the coverage cost and what benefits would be received. The initial goal of LTC insurance to finance the cost of assisted living and skilled medical care has now become more of a hedge against the final bill for LTC than total coverage of expenses.

With the chance of needing to live in an elder care facility and the average stay of three or more years, plus the cost of skilled care, this is now a major reason for people declaring bankruptcy during retirement. LTC insurance was sold as protection, but as life expectancies with medical conditions have increased, so has the cost of care. As a result, premiums have skyrocketed, and benefits have been reduced.

Universal Life Insurance with Accelerated Benefit Riders is an option better suited for people up to age 70 with $3 million to $5 million in investable assets. The premiums are high, but the policies act as a multi-use tool, providing coverage and the opportunity for wealth leveraging for the next generation.

Accelerated Benefit Riders (ABRs) are a special kind of life insurance rider triggered by medical conditions allowing the death benefit of the policy to be advanced to the owner during their lifetime, often up to 100% of the policy’s face value, for funding an extended stay in an assisted living or skilled care facility.

Asset Protection Trust Planning is the focus for most Americans with a net worth of less than $2 million. This is where the pressure of the costs for skilled nursing care is felt more intensely. Those with fewer assets have more to lose and need protection more than the wealthy.

Self-settled wholly discretionary grantor trusts, which are irrevocable, are used to house certain assets Medicaid would expect families to liquidate or spend before approving benefits to cover the bulk of the cost. Certain provisions of irrevocable trusts can be changed depending on the state of residence, such as who the trustee is and who the beneficiaries are.

The trustee should not be one of the grantors of the trust, and there is a five-year look-back on the trust’s funding. For example, if a grantor needs long-term care five years after assets were moved into the trust’s name, other assets will be needed to pay for the care.

Families are encouraged to plan early—ideally, just before or in the early years of retirement. The needs of the family drive which assets are placed in the trust. However, not everything goes. For instance, placing IRAs or other qualified accounts into an irrevocable trust would be unwise because this would be a fully taxable event. Roth IRAs may be placed in a trust. However, then they would lose their Roth status.

Careful planning with an experienced estate planning attorney can establish a balance between maximizing protection and minimizing taxes.

Reference: Kiplinger (March 20, 2023) “Long-Term Care Planning vs. Taxes: Finding a Healthy Balance”

Top 10 Estate Planning Myths

“Everyone needs to worry about estate planning. That planning doesn’t only pertain to what happens when you die but what could happen if you end up incapacitated.”

Estate planning addresses many issues, from who inherits your property or handles your finances to who takes care of you if you’re incapacitated to who manages funds for a disabled child. Unfortunately, there are many myths around estate planning, as explained in the recent article “Debunking the Top 10 estate planning myths” from Insurance News Net.

Only wealthy people need estate planning. This is easily the biggest myth of estate planning. Estate planning addresses planning for incapacity and taking care of your legal and financial affairs if you can’t. It also includes planning for end-of-life care and delineating what medical procedures you want and don’t want. Estate planning also creates a plan for families with minor children, if something should happen to parents.

Having a will means avoiding probate. Probate is the court process where the court reviews your will, establishes its validity and allows your executor to administer the estate. If your goal is minimizing or avoiding probate, talk with an estate planning attorney about retitling assets and creating trusts.

You need a trust to avoid probate. A trust is only one way to avoid probate. You could consider titling assets as joint tenants with rights of survivorship, although there are risks involved in doing so. Depending on your state of residence, you might also consider various transfer-on-death arrangements. Assets with beneficiary designations, like IRAs, 401(k)s, annuities, and other financial accounts, pass directly to beneficiaries.  You might also give away assets while you are living.

Putting a house in joint and survivorship ownership with an adult child will avoid probate. You may avoid probate. However, you create tremendous risk with this move. If your adult child becomes a half-owner, you’ll need their okay—and their spouse’s approval, too—to sell the house. You won’t qualify for the tax-free sale of your personal residence on half of the sale proceeds, unless your child also qualifies. If your child has financial problems or undergoes a divorce, their half ownership could be attached by creditors or be owned by an ex-spouse.

My will says who will inherit my IRA. The beneficiary designation on IRAs, life insurance and retirement accounts, and any account with a beneficiary designation overrides whatever your will says. The will does not control annuities, payable on death accounts, or transfer on death accounts and affidavits. You should check these forms periodically to ensure that the funds go where you want them to go.

I don’t need a will if my beneficiary forms are correct. However, you still need a will. For example, if a child dies before you, what happens to the assets if they were the beneficiaries? What happens to assets if a beneficiary is not of legal age and cannot inherit the money directly? Who makes decisions if there are multiple children and real estate decisions that need to be made? What if an adult child has a debt problem? Who will pay your final expenses? These are just a few issues that are addressed by wills.

A revocable trust will protect assets if I enter a nursing home. Totally wrong. Medicaid planning usually involves an Irrevocable Trust to protect assets. Revocable trusts will not make you eligible for nursing home care.

Trusts avoid probate. Assets in a trust don’t go through probate. However, it is only if the trust is funded. Assets must be immediately placed in the trust, usually through re-titling, or postmortem through beneficiary designations. Otherwise, the assets go through probate.

If my will says, “per stirpes,” my grandchildren will inherit assets if my adult children die first. This oversimplification of a complex issue is typical of estate planning myths. Grandchildren only inherit assets if the adult children die before the grandparent. If you want your grandchildren to inherit assets, you need a “bloodline” trust. An estate planning attorney will help you accomplish this.

I only need a will and a trust for my estate plan. This is another big mistake. An estate plan includes documents for incapacity and end-of-life, including Power of Attorney, Health Care Power of Attorney, Advanced Directives and a Living Will Declaration.

Reference: Insurance News Net (March 15, 2023) “Debunking the Top 10 estate planning myths”

Can I Protect My Elderly Parents?

“As the American population of seniors continues to expand, the need for intentional estate planning becomes more urgent, especially for the children of aging parents.”

Estate planning requires the ability to be realistic about current health and assets, while considering the inevitable changes to come. For adults with aging parents, having a well-thought out estate plan, regardless of the size of the estate, becomes more urgent as the time to use the documents draws closer. A recent article, “Accessing needs of aging parents,” from The News-Enterprise explains the steps adult children need to take to protect their parents.

There are four key factors to consider: medical needs, housing and care needs, finances and legal needs. All require candid, non-emotional assessments.

Start with medical, housing and care needs. Consider the next five years. Is it likely their medical condition may decline? How will their present home work, if they are unable to manage steps or need to sleep and toilet on the same level? If their home is not conducive for aging in place, will they consider moving to a better situation—or can they afford to make any changes?

Next, examine health and care needs. Do they have long-term care insurance or do they expect to apply for Medicaid? If one spouse will need memory care or one spouse dies, will the surviving spouse have the resources needed to remain in home and receive the care they need? An experienced estate planning attorney will be able to evaluate their financial situation with regard to becoming eligible for Medicaid, if this will be needed. There is a five-year look-back period for Medicaid, so advance action is necessary to protect assets.

Do they have any estate planning documents in place? Is there a will, and when was it prepared? Ask any estate planning attorney how many times seniors have told their children a will exists, only for the children to learn the will is forty years old, woefully out of date and declared invalid by the probate court. Deceased individuals may be listed as agents for Power of Attorney and Medical Power of Attorney. Funds left for heirs may no longer exist. Laws for power of attorney may not include required provisions as a result of changes to the law.

More complicated issues may exist. If appreciated real estate property has been deeded to loved ones to protect the property from nursing home costs, are the beneficiaries prepared to pay the resulting taxes? If deeded real estate property was intentionally left unrecorded, transferring property could become a legal quagmire.

The best solution is to have an experienced estate planning attorney meet with the parents, review any existing documents and prepare an updated set of documents to achieve the parent’s goals, protect them in case of medical emergencies and allow parents and children to gain the peace of mind of knowing they are ready for the future. This includes a will, power of attorney, health care power of attorney, HIPAA release, living will and, depending upon the situation, may also include trusts.

Reference: The Times-Enterprise (Nov. 5, 2022) “Accessing needs of aging parents”

Medicaid Crisis Plans for Long Term Care Costs

“In general, estate planning is a practice that requires forward thinking. However, sometimes estate planning must occur in the midst of a crisis.”

To the estate planning attorney, the situation is known as “crisis planning.” It almost always involves two things happening at once: the immediate need for additional healthcare and for a family’s assets to be protected. The end goal of crisis planning is to protect assets for both spouses, while ensuring that the sick spouse receives the care they need, as explained in the article “Crisis planning for couples focuses on asset protection” from The News-Enterprise.

What is Medicaid Crisis Planning?

Crisis planning for married couples requires a three-step process. First, does the spouse in crisis have the documents in place to allow another person to act on their behalf? This includes a financial power of attorney and a healthcare power of attorney.

Powers of Attorney need to be checked to ensure that they include specific powers needed to take action on the person’s behalf. These documents are “state specific,” meaning each state has laws determining what the POA must contain and how it must be prepared. Crisis planning requires a POA providing a broad set of powers, so agents can access and change documents like deeds, bank and investment accounts.

Once the documents and POAs are in hand, the next step is to get a detailed breakdown of the couple’s financial position and the cost of care. This becomes easier if the couple is organized and has information readily available for each income stream and asset.

What Information Will the Agent Need?

The agent must find several different types of financial documents. Proof of income for each income stream is needed. The actual proof of income will show taxes withdrawn or other deductions taken from income, such as health insurance.

The agent will also need access to several months of statements for each account, including bank statements, investment accounts, retirement accounts and deeds and titles for property. Proof of other assets, including insurance policies, burial plot deeds and other assets must also be included.

Some types of income and assets are countable, and some are non-countable. However, the non-countable income and assets may need to be considered, so the estate planning attorney will need to have all the information.

Medicaid Resource Assessment Request

Step three is to determine eligibility for programs and make the necessary applications. This will depend on the type of care needed. However, a typical crisis case is for nursing home care, which almost always means Medicaid eligibility. All income and assets are reported to Medicaid through a Resource Assessment request. The Medicaid office creates a breakdown of what will be counted against the applicant.

The remaining amount is what must be “spent down” for a person to be eligible for Medicaid coverage.

The most common way to do this is through a Medicaid Annuity. This annuity takes the spend down amount and returns the full amount as income to the spouse at home, effectively preserving the couple’s assets.

Crisis planning is stressful but does not have to be hopeless. By working with an experienced estate planning attorney and providing documentation as quickly as possible, health care needs can be met without the well spouse being impoverished.

Reference: The News-Enterprise (July 23, 2022) “Crisis planning for couples focuses on asset protection”

 

What’s the Difference between a Living Will and a DNR Order?

“Q: Is there a difference between a ‘living will’ and a ‘do not resuscitate’ order?”

A living will and a Do Not Resuscitate Order, known as a DNR, are very different documents. However, many people confuse the two. They both address end of life issues and are used in different settings, according to the article “One Senior Place: Know the difference between ‘living will’ and ‘do not resuscitate’” from Florida Today.

What is a Living Will?

A living will is a written statement describing a person’s wishes about receiving life-sustaining medical treatment in case of a terminal illness if they are near death or in a persistent vegetative state. This includes choices such as whether to continue the use of artificial respiration, a feeding tube and other highly intensive means of keeping a person alive.

The living will is used to make your wishes clear to loved ones and to physicians. It is prepared by an estate planning elder care attorney, often when having an estate plan created or updated. To ensure it is valid and the instructions can be carried out, be sure to have this document created properly.

What is a DNR?

A DNR is a medical directive used to convey wishes to not be resuscitated in the event of respiratory or cardiac arrest. This document needs to be signed by both the patient and their treating physician. It’s often printed on brightly colored paper, so it can be easily found in an emergency.

The DNR should be placed in a location where it can be easily and quickly found. In nursing homes, this is typically at the head or foot of the bed. At home, it’s often posted on the refrigerator.

The DNR needs to be immediately available to ensure that the patient’s last wishes are honored.

A key mistake made by well-meaning family members is to have the DNR with someone else, rather than at home or at the bedside of the patient. If the DNR cannot be found and emergency medical responders arrive on scene, they are legally bound to provide CPR or other medical care to revive the patient.

When the DNR is available, the emergency responders will not initiate CPR if they find the patient in cardiopulmonary arrest or respiratory arrest. They may instead provide comfort care, including administering oxygen and pain management.

If a person is admitted to the hospital, their living will is placed on the chart. Depending on the state’s laws, a certain number of physicians must agree the patient is in a persistent vegetative state or has an end-state condition and can no longer communicate. At that point, the terms of the living will are followed.

In addition to having these documents created with your estate plan, make sure that family members know where they can be found.

Reference: Florida Today (July 19, 2022) “One Senior Place: Know the difference between ‘living will’ and ‘do not resuscitate’”

Senior Second Marriages and Estate Planning

“More Americans are now getting married over the age of 65 than ever before. Even though this may be a second or third marriage for many, caregivers should nevertheless be aware of certain aspects that shouldn’t be ignored amidst all the wedding plans and celebrations.”

For seniors enjoying the romance and vitality of an unexpected late-in-life engagement, congratulations! Love is a wonderful thing, at any age. However, anyone remarrying for the second, or even third time, needs to address their estate planning as well as financial plans for the future. Pre-wedding planning can make a huge difference later in life, advises a recent article from Seniors Matter titled “Your senior parent is getting remarried—just don’t ignore key areas.”

A careful review of your will, powers of attorney, healthcare proxy, living will and any other advance directives should be made. If you have new dependents, your estate planning attorney will help you figure out how your children from a prior marriage can be protected, while caring for new members of the family. Failing to adjust your estate plan could easily result in disinheriting your own offspring.

Deciding how to address finances is best done before you say, “I do.” If one partner has more assets than the other, or if one has more debts, there will be many issues to resolve. Will the partner with more assets want to help resolve the debts, or should the debts be cleared up before the wedding? How will bills be paid? If both partners own homes, where will the newlyweds live?

Do you need a prenuptial agreement? This document is especially important when there are significant assets owned by one or both partners. One function of a prenup is to prevent one partner from challenging the other person’s will and trusts. There are a number of trusts designed to protect loved ones including the new spouse, among them the Qualified Terminable Interest Property Trust, known as a QTIP. This trust provides support for the new spouse. When the spouse dies, the entire trust is transferred to the persons named in the trust, usually children from a first marriage.

Most estate planning attorneys recommend two separate wills for people who wed later in life. This makes distribution of assets easier. Don’t neglect updating Powers of Attorney and any health care documents.

Before walking down the aisle, make an inventory, if you don’t already have one, of all accounts with designated beneficiaries. This should include life insurance policies, pensions, IRAs, 401(k)s, investment accounts and any other property with a beneficiary designation. Make sure that the accounts reflect your current circumstances.

Sooner or later, one or both spouses may need long-term care. Do either of you have long-term care insurance? If one of you needed to go into a nursing home or have skilled care at home, how would you pay for it? An estate planning attorney can help you create a plan for the future, which is necessary regardless of how healthy you may be right now.

Once you are married, Social Security needs to be updated with your new marital status and any name change. If a parent marries after full retirement age and their new spouse’s benefit is higher than their own, they may be able to increase their benefits to 50% of the new spouse’s benefits. If they were receiving divorced spousal benefits, those will end. The same goes for survivor benefits, if the person marries before age 60. If they’re disabled, they may still receive those benefits after age 60.

Setting up an appointment with an estate planning attorney a few months before a senior wedding is a good idea for all concerned. It provides an opportunity to review important legal and financial matters, while giving both spouses time to focus on the “business” side of love.

Reference: Seniors Matter (April 29, 2022) “Your senior parent is getting remarried—just don’t ignore key areas”